Julia is a life and career coach skilled in facilitating foundational shifts in her clients’ lives and work.
All in Thoughts
What is all or nothing thinking? Well it's just like it sounds.. the idea that something is all or nothing, a perfect binary. In psychology, this phenomenon is often called 'splitting', or the inability to bring together the dichotomy of something having both positive and negative aspects.
Have you heard of shadow work? This is the portal into deep, radical inner healing and transformation. My saying, "I am racist", is acknowledging a shadow. Something that I might superficially, in my conscious mind, deny, yet in my subconscious lives and breaths and influences my actions and impact in the world. I care about my impact, I imagine you do as well, and if my shadows influence that then I, we (if you're with me) MUST go there.
Have you ever wondered when is the right time to leave consulting? If you’ve spent one too many nights banging your head against your keyboard, wishing you could sign off of the grind and sign on to a different career path, check in with this list to see if now is the time to make the leap.
...saying no to that question created an imprint in my mind that reinforced that answer to me about my identity, my ability and frankly not only who I was in that moment, but also who I would be in the future. Answering "no" would have created a boundary on my own life, present and future. And who was building that boundary? Me.
In most days there are moments I feel like a dark, raging storm and in other moments like a burst of sunshine that could burn through any fog. There are times when I hear myself thinking negative thoughts, saying things that I know will hurt someone’s feelings, acting in ways I am not proud of. I also see this duality of emotion and action in people around me, both those close to me as well as strangers on the street or in the news. This leads me, and maybe some of you, to wonder, what is the innate nature of humans?
Our culture seems to have forgotten that the purpose of working hard has historically been all about affording the time and ability to enjoy life!
Instead, our values have been flipped on their head to remove one half of the equation and leave simply the act of working hard as what is supposed to provide us with enjoyment, value.. the ultimate badge of success (wow, capitalism, how’d you fool us so well into exclusively working toward your ends?).
Time to flip that baby back.. and here’s how!
